It doesn’t matter if you want to get better at flipping pancakes or making love, the principles are the same. I just learned that a few days ago and it’s something you don’t necessarily learn in life coaching courses or NLP training. And the more I reflected on these principles thinking about my previous experiences, the more I realised how true it is. And so I’m going to share them with you.
One of the most common questions I get asked when I’m life coaching someone is: “how can I overcome procrastination?” And even though answers could greatly vary from one individual to another, one common reason for procrastination keeps popping up. It’s the lack of know how.
Take a moment and remember the last time you had to do something but kept putting it off time and again. Your behaviour was likely a result of you not knowing (or not knowing enough) how to do it. Do you remember what stopped you from learning or improving that skill?
I’m going to guess you were probably thinking… this is overwhelming. Or there’s so much to learn! Or I don’t know where to start! Or I don’t want to look stupid doing it!
What’s the one skill that if you learn or improve will catapult you towards success? Share it with us in the comment box below.
What if I told you there are a few principles that you can follow to learn or improve any skill efficiently? Well there are!
1- Practice only one skill at a time. Don’t half practice two and definitely don’t juggle 10 at a time. You either practice flipping pancakes or making love. Please don’t try both at the same time!
2- Try the newly learned skill until you’re convinced you can do it. On NLP training you learn that conviction could either come from within or from someone else. You either know you’re good at flipping pancakes, or your partner tells you you’re good. Until you reach that point, keep trying.
3- Keep in mind that when you learn a new technique, your skills might get worse at first! Take golfers for example. They score worse after learning a new technique until they master it. If you’re learning a new pancake flipping technique, it’s OK if you miss the pan a few times before you hit the right spot. Your partner will understand.
4- Focus on quantity and not quality. When you learn a new technique use it as much as you can and quality will look after itself eventually. Drink lots of water between practice sessions.
5- Practice in safe situations NOT in key situations. If you’re learning how to flip pancakes, start in the privacy of your own kitchen, NOT in the middle of the big dinner party you’re hosting. The same applies to other skills… feel free to practice them in the kitchen.
6- Review. After you’re done ask what could you have done better? Like conviction, feedback could come either from within or from someone else. If you listen to your partner’s feedback, you could greatly improve your pancake flipping technique.
7- Realise the importance of details and give attention to minuet particulars. Needless to say, this is particularly important in the kitchen.
If you follow these principles you’re guaranteed to get better at almost anything. And when you don’t get any better, don’t blame the skill or technique. Blame yourself for not practicing enough.
Now get out there and start flipping!
Until next time,
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