Life Coaching Courses Cross Road

Whether we like it or not, we are forced to make decisions every single day no matter how grand or insignificant they might appear. For example, you chose to sit where you’re sitting, to click on the link that got you here and to continue reading. Although these might not seem like life changing decisions, we’ve all been in a situation where we had to make a big and difficult decision.

Do you remember these computer games we played when we were children? Where you’re going on a journey and you reach a cross road. In front of you, there are three roads to follow. Each road is filled with dangers and/or pleasant surprises. You have to decide which route to take to reach your destination and save the princess.

I hated these games. They drove me mad. You see, I was addicted to asking “what if?”

I’d go down one route and then midway I’d stop and think what if I went the other route? What would have happened? Then I couldn’t resist the temptation of finding out. So I’d go all the way back to the cross road and take the second route. Then again, I’d stop and think… but what if I took the third route? And again, I’d go back to restart the entire journey.

By the time I reach the princess it would’ve been too late. She would’ve already been married to a green creature and living happily ever after in the kingdom of far far away with their babies, talking donkey and puss in boots.

Random question. How do you shop for a car? Share this with us in the comment box below.

I later on discovered I’m actually doing this in real life! One of the core principals you learn in life coaching courses and NLP training is: “how you do one thing, is how you do everything”

Think about it for a second. The decision making process that you follow shopping for a pair of shoes, is going to be similar the one you follow shopping for a car is going to be similar to the one you follow shopping for a house.

So how do you get to the princess first?

A quick disclaimer before I continue: I’m not saying you should never challenge or question yourself. On the contrary, challenging your decisions and beliefs is the essence of life coaching and NLP! So before you make up your mind and set on your journey, take the time to weigh your options, estimate the risks and consider your choices.

No Regrets

When you do make up your mind, go forward and don’t look back. Don’t ask what if. Don’t regret your decision. Let nothing stop you or get in your way. Not even the evil fairy mother. It’s then when you’ll reach your destination and live happily ever after.

No wait… it’s not. There still is one critical missing element. And I’m going to talk about it in the next blog post.

Until next time,


Copyright (c) 2010 – Life coach London, life coaching London, RESULTS Coach, Performance Consultant, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), NLP training

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  1. CG

    Looking at how I shop for a car actually scares me…: I have a budget, usually a very low one, so all I can ask for is a car that is in working order and will hopefully pass the next MOT. Checking out gumtree and ebay etc., sticking to the budget, I end up buying the fancy orange one because at the end of the day you never know what you actually get. So I went for the one that looked prettiest 🙂
    How superficial, but what else am I supposed to do – I don’t have a clue about cars and shoes and houses… Oh ya, shoes. I have at least 3 different sizes in the house, because I bought some although they were not available in my size…do I have to say more?
    However, even though the orange beast caused me a lot of trouble, I don’t regret having bought it since I simply like it. Unreasonable, ey.
    Can’t wait for your next blog and hope it might help me not ending up living in an igloo one day…

    • Tarek

      CG, your orange beast is awesome 🙂 I love it’s color. Very different!

      And I’m glad that even if it caused you trouble, you don’t regret buying it. That’s the whole point of my posting this. One the other hand, you might want to re-evaluate the way you buy cars, or shoes for that matter. Maybe next time, you’ll find a florescent yellow beast that doesn’t cause you that much trouble 😛

  2. tzongyih

    interesting blog, thanks for your sharing.
    I love it.

  3. Brett Holman
    Brett Holman07-13-2010

    really appreciate YOU ¡ª thanks a lot!

  4. Amany?

    What if someone doesn’t take decisions in order not to regret?
    Fear of decisions & its outcomes!!

    • Tarek

      Amany, ultimately the decision is yours. Personally, I believe that 50 or 60 years from now when I look back at my life, it’s the decisions that I didn’t make and the experiences that I didn’t live that I will regret, not the the other way around. You can’t really know what the outcome of something is before you actually go ahead and do it. Before you do that, you’d be afraid of and worried about something that might or might not happen.

  5. Fashmabuza

    There are definitely lots of deatils like that to take into consideration. That is a great point to deliver up. I provide the ideas above as general inspiration but clearly there are questions like the one you deliver up the place an important thing will probably be working in trustworthy good faith. I don?t know if greatest practices have emerged around things like that, however I am sure that your job is clearly recognized as a good game. Both boys and girls really feel the influence of only a second’s pleasure, for the remainder of their lives.

  6. lili

    Great responses! Personally I would do the 3 sdartand coaching questions (How are we doing? What are we doing well? what can we do better?) If no one mentions the energy level? I would follow this with how is our energy level. If the team is fine with it I have to be fine with it. If the team mentions it seems low I would ask them what they want to do about it? If they choose to do something about it (I had a team that opted to get rid of the chairs and stand until they all woke up).

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