Life Coach London Missed Target

I was wrong. I’ve spent months not knowing this till recently. I was wrong to believe: “do what you love and the money will follow”. That’s not to say the statement is incorrect. Not at all. It’s just incomplete.

If you’ve been following my blog, you might remember one of my earliest entries. It was on the day after I discovered my passion. I was on life coaching courses and NLP training weekend, going through self discovery exercises when it all dawned on me. It was one of the most profound moments in my life. You can read about it here.

When that happened I thought… that’s it… all I have to do now is follow my heart and everything will be fine and dandy. Well, it wasn’t.

Last time I shared with you my thoughts on death in the hope of getting you thinking about your legacy. And to think about your legacy, you would’ve first needed to consider your purpose. There’s a reasons why I wanted you to do that.

Because recently I discovered a critical fact.

It took me months to figure this out. I share it with you in the hope that you’ll save yourself some of the trouble I went through. Here’s what I learned:

Passion without purpose will get you nowhere.

Different people define passion differently. Oprah Winfrey believes that if you’re passionate about what you do, you’d still do it without getting paid for it; even if you had to work a second job to support it. But that alone isn’t enough.

If passion is the fuel that drives you forward, purpose is the destination where you’re heading. Without a purpose, you’ll be getting nowhere and your fuel will eventually dry out.

I was life coaching a friend a couple days ago. He’s been offered three jobs, each with a 6 figure salary. Yet he was hesitant to accept either of them. He was confused. He didn’t know what he wanted and so he thought he’ll turn all of them down and stay home. He was overwhelmed because he forgot about his purpose. He had one; he just forgot about it getting busy with life! The minute he remembers his purpose, is the minute such big decisions will become a no brainer.

So how do you remind yourself or your purpose? And what if you don’t have one? How would you go about finding it? Well… it’s a process that would take anything from a couple hours to a few days. But here’s a start…

Ask yourself this:
•    How would my ideal world be?
•    How do I want to best contribute to the world?
•    How can I do this?

These are big questions that will require a bit of thinking from you. So pull out a pen and a paper and answer them. It’ll be worth it I promise.

Once you’ve answered your questions, share them with us in the comment box below. And remember, by sharing your dreams, you bring them closer to reality.

That’s not just it however. After you’ve defined your passion and purpose there would still be two missing pieces. And these are your vision and mission. We’ll be talking about these in the future.

Until next time,

Tarek

Copyright (c) 2010 www.TarekCoaching.com – Life coach London, London life coach, RESULTS Coach, Performance Consultant, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

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  1. ruba
    ruba03-14-2010

    Thanks for bringing this up Tarek, I have been going through this recently too, especially that I am being offered an interesting amount of money to go back to a field I thought I left for good after finding my passion :)…
    so to answer your questions:

    1. My ideal world has a lot of authenticity and constant learning (I have realized recently that its really up to me to create this… whatever the environment I am working in)..

    2. My best contribution to the world would be to support the people in living a life of joy and meaning… and that includes me going through the darkest alleys “inside” me FIRST… so this has no time and space restrictions…

    3.This answer keeps changing depending on when I try to answer this question… now it seems to be I need to be in “trust”… for me this means inspecting what is currently being handed to me… while surrendering I will definitely be guided by my previously stated intentions towards the road I want to take…

    woohoo…. thanks for asking!!!

    • Tarek
      Tarek03-15-2010

      Welcome Ruba! Thanks for sharing 🙂 Being in “trust” is definitely the first step to handling what life throws your way. The second step would be to shape your life in such a way that it throws your way what you want 😉

  2. life coach training certification
    life coach training certification03-14-2010

    You are so right! Everytime I hear people say that doing what you love will bring you wealth I shake my head at them. That statement is so incredibly misleading, it makes it sound so much more simple than it is.

    You really hit the nail on the head, without purpose, you can’t earn – no matter how much you love what you’re doing.

  3. CG
    CG03-14-2010

    Can’t agree with that. Passion comes from within and doen’t necessarily have to have a purpose. For example taking photos, drawing pretty pictures or enjoying music, not to mention other passionate fun stuff without purpose, if you don’t earn your money with it. You don’t do it for anyone or anything, just for the sake of it. I believe not everything we do needs to have a purpose or a destination neither. To the contrary, I think many passions are more powerful if they are not driven by a purpose and the aim to make money of it. How many passionate hobby chefs loose it when they start doing it for money. Another example in my family: turning her passion ‘child care’ into a business lead to huge financial success, but now she’s running a business like almost any other and the joy of working with the kids is up to others. I’ll be happy to do a decent job for living and to indulge my passions otherwise. However, I’m happy for anyone who manages to have both at the same time.
    Good luck for you!

    • Tarek
      Tarek03-15-2010

      CG I think we’re both agreeing on the same point from different points of view 🙂 I’m not saying you MUST utilize your passion to make money. I’m saying by doing so, you could be well on your way for a fulfilled life. In my humble opinion, there are three types of people in this world:

      1- passionless people, who go to work while they hate it, make a living and spend the rest of their lives stuck in routines like lifeless drones.
      2- passion filled people without a purpose and with no money in the bank. Think your typical starving artist. These people would eventually turn their passion into bitterness and anger. I’ve seen this happen
      3- Passionate people with grand purposes. With both combined, they are now changing the world. These are the Oprah Winfreys and the Richard Bransons.

      I’m willing to bet that the lady in your family has somehow neglected her purpose or didn’t have one when she started. This is why she’s running the child care like any other business. And that’s what happened to me before I realized something wasn’t right and decided to change.

      Imagine if instead of you having a decent job and indulging in your passion; your passion was what made you money. You do out of passion, and because you’re so brilliantly good at it, you become a big financial success. Not for the money, but for the love of it. This is what a passion, a purpose, a vision and a mission does.

  4. Houssam
    Houssam03-14-2010

    he who is aiming nowhere, will reach his aim, and this is exactly the problem, that is why , I totally agree with you Tarek.
    thanks

    • Tarek
      Tarek03-15-2010

      Well said my friend.

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