Life Coach London Intersec

That was the question I asked myself on my way to give a talk. I, voluntarily, fully sober, fully conscious and fully aware of what I was doing, signed up to give a talk in an international expo where industry experts are expected to attend. At the time, it seemed like a great idea, but then on the day I almost freaked out!

Dale Carnegie said: “the hardest thing in the world to do is speak in front of an audience”. I don’t necessarily agree that it’s the hardest thing in the world, but I do agree that it’s quiet hard!

So there I was, a couple hours before the talk when one of my colleagues asked me if I was nervous. I said: “YES!” Then it was time.

There were around 40, maybe 50 people in the audience. I went on stage for around 40 minutes. When my talk was over, I got approached by people from the audience to congratulate me on such a great talk. Even the event organizer said that was the most interesting talk she heard in the past three days. Apologies if it seems like I’m blowing my own horn, but I was really exhilarated with the result. Especially that I haven’t done something like this since I was maybe 13 years old.

I’m not a public speaker, yet, so how did I manage to succeed in this challenge? Well, I used a few concepts from life coaching and NLP and I thought I’d share them with you. Of course these tips are applicable to almost every situation in life.

So what did I do?

1-      Prepare. Really, that’s not just about public speaking. It’s about everything. If you take 20 minutes at the beginning of your day or a couple hours at the beginning of your week to prepare and plan things ahead, you’ll results will improve significantly. Try it.

2-      Use visualisation techniques. This falls under preparation. Use visualization techniques that will help your unconscious mind work towards positive outcomes. If you haven’t done this before come join us for the next meet up. My friend Donna, a master NLP practitioner and a life coach, is giving a talk and she’ll be showing you exactly how to effectively use visualisation. You can check out Donna’s website here.

3-      Be passionate. Whatever it is that you’re doing, do it because you’re enjoying it. Sure there are things that we need to do in life that aren’t very joyous. Like stopping myself from eating 2 kilos of chocolate every day. But mostly, if you’re doing something you enjoy you’re guaranteed to produce impressive results.

4-      Use anchors to fire positive emotional states when needed. If you’ve done life coaching or NLP before, you know what that is. If you haven’t, drop me an email and I’ll explain. Or I might explain it in a future post.

5-      Keep the reward in mind. Whatever it is you’re doing, whether it’s public speaking, losing weight, working on your relationship and so on, you’re doing this for a reason that’s likely your reward. Keep that in mind as you do through the process, it helps keep you motivated and keep you on track.

6-      Have fun!

Have you ever found yourself in a situation wondering “why do I do this to myself?” If you have, feel free to share you experience with us in the comment box below.

Until next time,

Tarek N

Copyright (c) 2010 – Life coach London, London life coach, RESULTS Coach, Performance Consultant, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

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  1. CG

    You spoke in front of a bunch of industry experts aged 13? I’m impressed!
    No seriously, well done. Your advice sounds all so reasonable, however, it doesn’t ease the nervousness before presenting. Despite being prepared and having some pretty pictures, blabla, it’s the 10 min before it actually happens that I ask myself: why am I doing this to myself?
    So I take my hut off to you!

    • Tarek

      That my friend, is exactly what I was planning to write about in my next blog. You’re way ahead of me CG 🙂
      I’m thinking what should I title it… how about “the 10 minutes before”? 😉

  2. Dania DD
    Dania DD02-03-2010

    Thanks for the great tips Tarek 🙂 and congratulations on a great speech 🙂 with many more to come 🙂 🙂

    Way to go 🙂 🙂


    • Tarek

      Thanks Dania 🙂 I had another major meeting today where I was put under the spot light out of the blue! Didn’t really like it :\

  3. Dontarrious

    Well done article that I’ll make sure to use it wisely.

  4. Apurba

    Excellent read, I just passed this onto a colgealue who was doing a little research on that. And he actually bought me lunch because I found it for him smile So let me rephrase that: Thanks for lunch!

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