Life Coach London Couch Potato

A marketing genius talks of his father who had a pair of cufflinks that were black squares with raised gold letters: YCDBSOYA.

The letters stand for: You Can’t Do Business Sitting On Your Ass.

But that’s not new. If you’ve done any NLP or life coaching or achieved any success for that matter, you know this is the second step for achieving outstanding results. However what boggles my mind is the fact that even when some know YCDBSOYA and take it on board as their motto, they still do absolutely nothing about it!

I’ve been through two similar experiences in the past month. Two business startups asked me for coaching. I went there thinking maybe these guys got caught up in their businesses not knowing what to do. Perhaps some coaching will help them think outside the box.

I was wrong. Totally wrong!

These guys knew exactly what needs to be done. The only problem was they didn’t do it.

Eh?… ermm… oh… ah… I was dumbstruck!

It just doesn’t make sense. Why, would you, if you knew exactly what needs to be done, not do it? Really, I’m asking. I have no idea! If you know, please share. Leave a comment in the box below with your opinion.

Why would anyone do that? Especially if you’ve spent time, money, energy, sacrificed your relationship with your spouse, children and/or family, damaged your social life, emptied your bank account to work on a business… doing… nothing! Amazing!

As a life coach, I gave them some motivation, gave them some criticism and even gave them some tough love. And you know what happened? They goat all excited and fired up… and came up with a ‘to do list’. And then another ‘to do list’. And now, there’s a whole stack of ‘to do lists’ but nothing has actually materialized.

I have nothing against ‘to do lists’. I really don’t. As a matter of fact, I’m a big fan of them. But ‘to do lists’ don’t make things happen. You do. You’ve got to take action. You’ve got to get off your ass and get on with it. You Can’t Do Business Sitting On Your Ass. As a matter of fact, you can’t do anything sitting on your ass… expect perhaps watch TV while enjoying a tub of ice cream. Even that requires some light lifting.

Soon I’m going to share with you a couple of more observations from these two experiences. They are things I learned on how to take action. Because when you finally put the ice cream tub down, turn off the TV and start taking action, there are little things that you could do to remarkably boost your performance.

Until next time,

Tarek N

Copyright (c) 2010 – Life coach London, London life coach, RESULTS Coach, Performance Consultant, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

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  1. Dania DD
    Dania DD01-25-2010

    Change is difficult Tarek. That’s why people resist it 🙁 It requires commitment & effort. Deal with the commitment & motivate that effort & that “to do list” will materialize 😉

    Now how do you get that commitment ?
    Motivational interviewing could work; visualization can help…:) you know better 🙂

    I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s a tough call 🙂 I’m dealing with such people ALL the time 🙂


    • Tarek

      It is difficult indeed! I think in this particular case it’s much deeper than what could be solved with motivational interviewing and visualization. I was having a chat with a friend of mine last night and the conclusion was: it happens because some don’t have a purpose in life. And that my friend, makes executing a to do list a very difficult task 🙂

  2. Michael

    Hmm… my guess: a subconscious fear of failure – they can’t fail if they don’t actually finish in the first place. Or maybe even fear of success…
    You back from your trip yet?

    • Tarek

      That’s a good point. You know, when I first heard about fear of success I found it difficult to believe… until I lived it! It was such a weird experience.

      Not back from my trip yet my friend. Will back in March. Get ready for a great night out 😉

  3. Hipolito M. Wiseman
    Hipolito M. Wiseman02-25-2010

    awesome comment about motivation

    • Tarek

      Thanks 🙂 I’m glad you liked it.

  4. Christian James
    Christian James07-01-2010

    This is some really good stuff. I’m shocked by the quality of your site

    • Tarek

      Thanks Christian! I appreciate it 🙂

  5. Mathew Mancha
    Mathew Mancha07-25-2010

    I’ve never heard of this before. I’ll definately need to check those out.

  6. Lynne Quintana
    Lynne Quintana07-26-2010

    I Think there are really some people who needs to get shaken up a bit before they start doing what they KNOW they should do… Like people who wait for something drastic to happen and then start to move… so when they make it work with that drastic situation… then it just makes them feel like they like they have accomplished so much, because they feel like they SAVED the day.

  7. Numair

    The question is what is riotunely and is it a planned absence or do they just not show up? I think if the two people are a disruption to the group it has the potential to hinder the ALT process. I think after the second time I would put it to the group and ask them how does unplanned absence impact the ALT team and what can we do better as a team to prevent this from happening.

  8. Fathur

    Agree with the previous posts. As the coach, I’d put it to the group to cosdnier the impact of the individuals being absent and what if anything should be done about it. I would encourage the team to self-manage on this issue in terms of next steps. If needed, I’d ask some questions around how this impacts group cohesion, deliverables and the schedule, and if the problem owner needs to be updated.

  9. Patience

    I agree clear expectations up front. In terms of if it sholud be part of the appraisal process I could go either way. Since the team works on real problems I could argue for including it in the appraisal. Since the team mebers were selected for leadership development I could argue it that way. Whichever way the organization decides it sholud be clearly communicated from the start.

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